How do you resolve misunderstandings with other parents?

We all like to be good examples for our children by showing how to extend an olive branch. How do you resolve misunderstandings with other parents?How do you resolve misunderstandings with other parents?
Seriously, SCY, I am, always have been, always will be, the type of person that keeps myself awake at night replaying things in my head. I beat myself up if I think I have offended someone else.


I always ask the other person if we can talk, and I do it humbly.


What I have found is that most of the time%26lt; I am met with resistance from the other parties.


Leads me to believe that many people would rather hold on to bad feelings (maybe so that they don't have to do anything about it and can still get away with their she-ot-talking behind your back???).


Then, I walk away.


It is more rare that you find someone who is willing to hash things out.How do you resolve misunderstandings with other parents?
I generally do it via email. But, I don't do it very well...





Most misunderstandings I have with other parents IRL have to do with them not being happy with the way I'm running volunteer-led events that I'm in charge of and I don't have a lot of patience with people complaining when they are not in there helping to get things done.
That's a tough one. I am struggling with this right now.





My daughter's school is strict about birthday invites. Unless you invite everyone, you can't pass them out at school. Well, there was this one little girl that my daughter can't stand (and I can't stand the weirdo mom). But, I made her invite her. Well, she came to the party and I minded my manners with the mom. So, last week her daughter came to school with 4 invites to her party. My daughter was excluded. She came home crying. I tried to remind her that she doesn't like the girl anyway, so why care.





Anyway, their school concert was last Friday and this daughter's mom was there. I confronted her and told her that what she did was a mean thing to do. Rules are in place for a reason and she not only hurt my daughter, but the 16 other little girls in the class that were excluded as well. She goes on to tell me that I am just mad because my daughter wasn't invited and I tell her that my daughter wouldn't have been allowed to go anyway because I think the whole family is weird and their hygiene is poor, etc.. (It got really bad and thus realizing I am making a scene and just rammed foot into mouth).





So, now all the other moms know what happened. And, actually none of the girls invited attended the birthday party. I feel like a complete butthole and....well ya. This is were I am now. Have no idea how to resolve it.
ha. avoidance. bad modeling, i know.





i once tried to nicely resolve a misunderstanding with another mother (the fault was hers, may i add -- i was really just trying to be the bigger person by trying to resolve it nicely) and she decided to respond by spending 10 minutes screaming swear words at me in front of a bunch of assembled preschoolers.





once bitten, twice shy.... so, avoidance.





i'm all for telling my kids to do the right thing and work it out, though, lol. yes, i can spell hypocrite.
Coffee. Everything can be resolved over coffee...But parents can be defensive when you challenge their parenting abilities.Sometimes issues never get resolved and you have to go on your own way. Like my sister in law and I . She agrees with leaving her 12 year old home for hours all day, she thinks it`s okay...where I do not. I`ll never change my point of view for her.
Im not so good at olive branches. I usually try to discuss my problems. It ends up with me using my mouth to over run them. If that doesn't work or if the issue is too serious I just walk away. If I can't walk away I tend to get violent.
Invite them over and talk out the problem. If it's your fault apologies and even if its not some times you have to bit the bullet anyways.
I try to explain the misunderstanding to the other parent(s) and hope that they don't take things so personally sometimes!
Depends on what the issue is. Inviting someone out/over for coffee, to the park, etc. Once there, we talk.