Is there a way to stop nosey parents from doing backgrounds checks on their daughter and husband?

My Mom %26amp; Dad do not approve of my husband. I am over 30 years old, once divorced from the man I was with for 10 years. I have remarried and man I have had feelings for forever and do not feel it is any of my parents business what is happening in my life. Is there a way to stop parents like this from overstepping the line?Is there a way to stop nosey parents from doing backgrounds checks on their daughter and husband?
Essentially, no. They will not be able to find out any more than basic, publicly available information, unless they choose, for example, to hire a private detective and pay for more in-depth checks.


I do wonder what he (or you) has to hide though!Is there a way to stop nosey parents from doing backgrounds checks on their daughter and husband?
Only through a restraining order. Even then they can still look into your private information they are just in contempt of court if caught doing it. Try looking for yourself what exactly is available on-line about your family. Then if it's something from a private source you don't want posted you can request the info be removed. Most organizations that post memberships will remove names when requested. Keep your myspace and other personal sites on private and don't add people unless you know its not them under a new name.
i cant remember what its called but isnt there a website that alerts you and the authorities that your social security number was used? maybe that would help you as far as the background checks. maybe you should just sit your parents down with you and your husband and explain to them that you appreciate their caring about you and your family, but would appreciate for them to trust your judgement and to respect your decisions. just telling them to butt out would just ignite the fire even more. explain that you need to have your privacy. if all else fails start invading theirs.
well i would love to say that you can tell them you will cut them off if they dont accept your husband, however they may have a gut feeling about something. take into concideration if they have or have not done this type of thing in the past. if not they maay have an instinct that often love blinds us to. if they do the background check and find nothing then you can tell them thank you now you need to back off and accept my husband, then if they can not respect your relationship i would distance myself from them. not completely but enough. there are alot of things i have seen on tv about people not being who they seem to be and bad things happening, so without knowing why your parents feel this way, that is the only advise i can give to you.
Honestly there's no way of stopping them from spying on you. You just have ignore whatever they are saying because I'm pretty sure that they are saying bad things about him. If you can't ignore try your best to organize a family event where they can come and try to get to know him.It's not easy to have parents who are not accepting of their kids choices. Just hang in there because I know something like this can create problems and fights between you and your husband.
i know im young and all, but parents just dont understand. they think they know evrything but they really dont!! They're just probably doing this bcuz they care for you. And dont get the wrong idea but im like never on their side, but when it omes to this they want you to be happy,carefree with who you with and all so they wont have ot worry about you later on in life...
choice one: just tell them if they don't approve that you will not trust their judgments since they don't trust yours.


choice two: sit down and talk. say you appreciate the concern but your thirty, you can take care of yourself finely. assure them that if any thing is wrong you will tell them.





tell the truth don't hide anything it always piles up.
Just stop talking to them. They do not respect you and if you cut them off, they'll have to reflect on their behaviuor. You don't need them anymore, so let them be.
There is absolute no way to prevent of your background being checked. Simply don't do anything stupid in your life.
Yes you walk away from them, and never look back.