This is a assignment for a special education class in college. The questions are as follows: 1. What are the educational hopes for your child or children with special needs? 2. What are your child's interests and preferred learning styles? 3. How can the school help caregivers with student learning and school involvement?
Thank you so much for your time and participation, it is greatly appreciated.Can I conduct a interview with a parent who has a child or children with special needs?
1. was to mainstream him now he has met that goal now his goal is to pass state required mcas testing to graduate with a diploma and a culinary arts certificate
2Culinaryy arts major andPersonallinterestt are video games and Music on his mp3
3 to individualize each student and nottreatt them as a diagnoses but as an individual . see past there diagnoses and mainstreamm them when ever possible Having learning delay doesn't mean having disciplinene problems and having displine problems does not mean unteachable.they have to look at each child on a one on one basses and stop grouping our children make it more accommodatingng to learn among there peersCan I conduct a interview with a parent who has a child or children with special needs?
1. That my daughter can learn to read and pass all subjects and eventually graduate high school. Maybe eventually even go to college.
2. My daughter is motivated by music, and uses eye gaze to communicate choices or yes/no answers.
3. Schools need to involve special needs kids more with the average kids and vice versa. They should not be segregated. They also need to make sure each kid has the appropriate equipment to aide them to learn. They should never assume they cannot learn just because they haven't been given the means to do so, ie. communication devices, etc.
My son is in kindergarten. He has ADHD, bipolar, cognitive disorder, possible ODD, and possible Reactive Attachment Disorder. He has severe behavioral issues (possibly neurological damage) that interfere with his learning. He started the school year off with a 504 plan, and a couple weeks ago I succesfully got him and IEP. I have learned that as a parent of a special needs child, I need to advocate with my son. The school did not seem to want to accomodate him until I went in there and stated the laws to them and why he was eligable under them. Then they had no choice and gave him the accomodations that he is entitled to.
1. My educational hopes for my son are that he will learn to like school, and have a positive attitude about it. I want him to learn to his best potential. Not all A's... just whatever the best he can be is. As long as he tries and is happy then I will be too.
2. My son's interested in science (how things work and how they are made), trains, trucks, police. Educationally he enjoys watching the life cycles of butterflies, sorting objects, nature, and doing the daily news. His prefered learning style would involve a way to learn while moving. He can not sit still for long at all.
3. The school can help the caregivers with student learning by passing on the information about what the child is learning at school, so the parents can go over this same information with the child. Caregivers could be more involved with the school if the teachers are effective communicaters, keep in contact with the parent about the child's progress, and make the parent feel important by asking about the child's interests etc.
Thursday, May 13, 2010
Parents: How do you react when your young child sees a large person and points out their size?
How do you react in that moment? Parents: How do you react when your young child sees a large person and points out their size?
This is often a tough one....you want to react to let your child know that what they said was potentially hurtful (even though they didn't mean it), but unfortunately, the more you react the stronger the message you are sending to the person that they indeed are different.
I was in a restaurant with my kids when they were 3 and a double amputee rolled in, and my daughter yelled, ';Mom! That man gots no feet!!'; Had I yelled at her and spoken sternly to her right there, the man would have felt even worse. So instead I told her in a regular voice (the man could probably hear me), ';Yes, he doesn't have legs. And do you see how well he gets around? That's really amazing!'; With a comment like this, the man could kept his dignity and my daughter learned that it's not always about what you see that matters. Later on, I explained that you shouldn't shout out things like that, but young kids like that aren't always going to understand.
If my kids see a really obese person, and remark a little too loudly, I might say something like, ';People come in all different sizes, don't they?'; By saying something like this, it doesn't make the other person feel so out of place.
In private, I will explain to my kids how they might want to keep their observations to themselves until we are alone.Parents: How do you react when your young child sees a large person and points out their size?
I will answer this as a big woman, who has had this happen on two different occasions... and the outcomes were very different.
The first time was in a restaurant. A young boy pointed and squealed ';Look mom that lady is FAT'; She roller her eyes at him but didnt tell him to stop it, and he kept looking at me with disgust and hate. It was a very painful experience forlittle
The second time it was a litte girl She made a similar comment but this time her parent looked at me first, with compassion and said ';I am sorry, if you can wait just a moment I'd like to ask her to apologize.'; The mom knelt down and explained to her that people come in all sorts of shapes, shurt-full colors... and that it is hurtfull to make mean comments about someone because they look different. She then asked the little girl if she understood whapologized wrong and asked her to apologise to me. The little girl approached me with a bit of shame on her face and apologized. I thanked her for her apology and told her I hoped that she understood that jdoesn'tcause people look different doesnt mean they are mean.
That little girl gave me a hug and said ';I REALLY am sorry';
I felt so good about that second encounter - and I would encourage you to give it a try.
If it happens and I am lucky enough for the person not to have heard it, I would quickly pull my child's arm down so they arent pointing any more, and tell them not to say that. If the person did hear it, then I would apologize profusely and then speak with my child.
I actually did have an incident like this happen. When my oldest son was about 4, we were in the store, and there was a very large lady in the checkout line in front of us. She had a shopping cart, and was sort of leaned over it, sort of like she was using it for support. Well, she was wearing a dress, and it was, um, stuck up in the crack of her bottom, and my son pointed and said ';Mom! Mom! Why is that lady's butt eating her dress?!'; OMG I was mortified! I apologized to the woman, who was also really embarassed. When we finally got out to the car, I explained to my son that in the future, if he ever wants to say something like that again, or has a question about why someone looks a certain way, or whatever, that it is perfectly ok to ask me, but that he must wait until we are alone in the car or back at home.
OK, I had to answer this question because we had a huge problem with this...no pun intended. My husband's mother is severely obese and it causes problems for her walking, sitting, standing and doing just about everything. My husband and I would want to shrivel up and die when they would call her fat when she was over, or even use the word at all. We could tell it bothered her. We just explained to them that God makes every person to look different and be a different size but that we all had the same feelings on the inside. We explained that making comments about a person's size could hurt their feelings and that would not be nice. We told them that if they ever had questions about a person's size, shape, color or anything else they could always ask us in private. We didn't want them to not be able to be curious...but we absolutely wanted them to be respectful. With little ones they are naturally curious and haven't learned the art of ';tactfulness'; so it is just one of those life lessons. Good luck!
I'm not a parent but have my fair share of nieces and nephews that I take around town. My three year old niece recently pointed out a very obese woman and asked why she jiggled like that when she walked. She's not a quiet child. I immediately pulled my niece aside and kneeled down in front of her so we were eye to eye and told her that people don't like it when others point out that their bodies are different and she probably hurt the woman's feelings. There's not much you can do except try to make your child or the child with you realize that it's cruel to say things like that.
Good luck!
Until we're alone where I can talk to her, I'll just try to shush her. (This happens quite often when we're in the grocery store or out some place. I have a 3 1/2 year old and she's gotten to where she voices whatever thoughts she may have quite loudly.) I don't want to teach her that it's ok to lie, but I don't want her hurting people's feelings.
Once we're away from the person, I'll tell her it's not nice to say things like that because it can make the person sad and hurt their feelings.
I feel like I need advice on this, too, so I'm interested in reading other answers.
It depends on how they said it.
All of my family are small, i'm scraping 5' and 100lbs, husband isn't much bigger lol.
Kids notice differences, so if she just said 'look momma, she's big' I'd probably just tell her that everyone's different, some ppl are big, tall, short, skinny....
We don't have some words in our house, there are no asian ppl, white ppl, black ppl, there are only people.
I hope she'd never say anything rude, and don't know how I'd react if she did. She'd say sorry for sure though.
My 4 yr old did that a few months ago in the store, I just told her that that was not a nice thing to say. I didnt know what else to do, I felt bad.
she even seen a guy with an eye patch and said ';momma thats guys like a pirate!';
Kids dont know that they are hurting other peoples feelings when they say things like this, and you should try to explain that to the child.
Tell them your child is just kidding, or is just in that phase. and that you are terribly sorry that your child said that, im sure him/her would forgive your younger child.
Well, my husband is a big guy so my children know not to point. They know not to point at anyone because they look different.
Mine has never done that. Doesn't point out people without limbs or those in wheelchairs either.
This is often a tough one....you want to react to let your child know that what they said was potentially hurtful (even though they didn't mean it), but unfortunately, the more you react the stronger the message you are sending to the person that they indeed are different.
I was in a restaurant with my kids when they were 3 and a double amputee rolled in, and my daughter yelled, ';Mom! That man gots no feet!!'; Had I yelled at her and spoken sternly to her right there, the man would have felt even worse. So instead I told her in a regular voice (the man could probably hear me), ';Yes, he doesn't have legs. And do you see how well he gets around? That's really amazing!'; With a comment like this, the man could kept his dignity and my daughter learned that it's not always about what you see that matters. Later on, I explained that you shouldn't shout out things like that, but young kids like that aren't always going to understand.
If my kids see a really obese person, and remark a little too loudly, I might say something like, ';People come in all different sizes, don't they?'; By saying something like this, it doesn't make the other person feel so out of place.
In private, I will explain to my kids how they might want to keep their observations to themselves until we are alone.Parents: How do you react when your young child sees a large person and points out their size?
I will answer this as a big woman, who has had this happen on two different occasions... and the outcomes were very different.
The first time was in a restaurant. A young boy pointed and squealed ';Look mom that lady is FAT'; She roller her eyes at him but didnt tell him to stop it, and he kept looking at me with disgust and hate. It was a very painful experience forlittle
The second time it was a litte girl She made a similar comment but this time her parent looked at me first, with compassion and said ';I am sorry, if you can wait just a moment I'd like to ask her to apologize.'; The mom knelt down and explained to her that people come in all sorts of shapes, shurt-full colors... and that it is hurtfull to make mean comments about someone because they look different. She then asked the little girl if she understood whapologized wrong and asked her to apologise to me. The little girl approached me with a bit of shame on her face and apologized. I thanked her for her apology and told her I hoped that she understood that jdoesn'tcause people look different doesnt mean they are mean.
That little girl gave me a hug and said ';I REALLY am sorry';
I felt so good about that second encounter - and I would encourage you to give it a try.
If it happens and I am lucky enough for the person not to have heard it, I would quickly pull my child's arm down so they arent pointing any more, and tell them not to say that. If the person did hear it, then I would apologize profusely and then speak with my child.
I actually did have an incident like this happen. When my oldest son was about 4, we were in the store, and there was a very large lady in the checkout line in front of us. She had a shopping cart, and was sort of leaned over it, sort of like she was using it for support. Well, she was wearing a dress, and it was, um, stuck up in the crack of her bottom, and my son pointed and said ';Mom! Mom! Why is that lady's butt eating her dress?!'; OMG I was mortified! I apologized to the woman, who was also really embarassed. When we finally got out to the car, I explained to my son that in the future, if he ever wants to say something like that again, or has a question about why someone looks a certain way, or whatever, that it is perfectly ok to ask me, but that he must wait until we are alone in the car or back at home.
OK, I had to answer this question because we had a huge problem with this...no pun intended. My husband's mother is severely obese and it causes problems for her walking, sitting, standing and doing just about everything. My husband and I would want to shrivel up and die when they would call her fat when she was over, or even use the word at all. We could tell it bothered her. We just explained to them that God makes every person to look different and be a different size but that we all had the same feelings on the inside. We explained that making comments about a person's size could hurt their feelings and that would not be nice. We told them that if they ever had questions about a person's size, shape, color or anything else they could always ask us in private. We didn't want them to not be able to be curious...but we absolutely wanted them to be respectful. With little ones they are naturally curious and haven't learned the art of ';tactfulness'; so it is just one of those life lessons. Good luck!
I'm not a parent but have my fair share of nieces and nephews that I take around town. My three year old niece recently pointed out a very obese woman and asked why she jiggled like that when she walked. She's not a quiet child. I immediately pulled my niece aside and kneeled down in front of her so we were eye to eye and told her that people don't like it when others point out that their bodies are different and she probably hurt the woman's feelings. There's not much you can do except try to make your child or the child with you realize that it's cruel to say things like that.
Good luck!
Until we're alone where I can talk to her, I'll just try to shush her. (This happens quite often when we're in the grocery store or out some place. I have a 3 1/2 year old and she's gotten to where she voices whatever thoughts she may have quite loudly.) I don't want to teach her that it's ok to lie, but I don't want her hurting people's feelings.
Once we're away from the person, I'll tell her it's not nice to say things like that because it can make the person sad and hurt their feelings.
I feel like I need advice on this, too, so I'm interested in reading other answers.
It depends on how they said it.
All of my family are small, i'm scraping 5' and 100lbs, husband isn't much bigger lol.
Kids notice differences, so if she just said 'look momma, she's big' I'd probably just tell her that everyone's different, some ppl are big, tall, short, skinny....
We don't have some words in our house, there are no asian ppl, white ppl, black ppl, there are only people.
I hope she'd never say anything rude, and don't know how I'd react if she did. She'd say sorry for sure though.
My 4 yr old did that a few months ago in the store, I just told her that that was not a nice thing to say. I didnt know what else to do, I felt bad.
she even seen a guy with an eye patch and said ';momma thats guys like a pirate!';
Kids dont know that they are hurting other peoples feelings when they say things like this, and you should try to explain that to the child.
Tell them your child is just kidding, or is just in that phase. and that you are terribly sorry that your child said that, im sure him/her would forgive your younger child.
Well, my husband is a big guy so my children know not to point. They know not to point at anyone because they look different.
Mine has never done that. Doesn't point out people without limbs or those in wheelchairs either.
How do I go about getting my parents loan on my car transferred to a dealer when I trade it in?
They lives states away yet I have their permission. What do I need to do at the dealer when I ask to trade in the truck and add the remainder of the loan to my new car loan?How do I go about getting my parents loan on my car transferred to a dealer when I trade it in?
The first thing you do is get smart about your finances. read all teh posts I have in here regarding people upside down on their cars. Adding negative equity to a new car loan is a step to financial disaster.
If you cannot be dissuaded from making this mistake, then geting them to sign off is not hard. Make the deal with the dealer. They will have to fed-ex the contracts to your parents for signatures. Then they send them back.
But again - look at the people I have answered for in the past. Rolling negative from one car to another only results in you getting further behind the fiancial curve. You will be even more upside down on the next car, for much longer. I have talked to people as much as $15,000 upside down as a result of doing this.
Buy smartHow do I go about getting my parents loan on my car transferred to a dealer when I trade it in?
Please take care - there are scammers on Y!A who actively seek out questions like yours and then offer loans but are scammers
Here are some tips for determining whether a loan is legitimate or a scam:
1) They don't use a free email address (yahoo, gmail, hotmail, etc)
2) They have a secure website you can go to to fill out their application (and no excuses about it being down at the moment)
3) They don't require ANY fees upfront (regardless of whatever excuse they use). Any fees will come out of proceeds of the loan (scammers want their fees via Western Union or Moneygram)
4) They have a REAL address (check it in the yellow pages) you can send mail to
5) They have a REAL phone number, not a cell phone
Often if you click on their profile you will find it is created in the last 24 hours - why? Because they are reported, profile closed down, but they simply create a new profile and start up again
Save yourself another headache and avoid them like the plague. The one from Lucky C (Rev. Peter White) above my post is a prime example of what I mean.... do not go anywhere near it.
Nothing. The dealer will take care of the details. Depending on how much you still owe on the trade, and its current fair market value, you *could* be making a giant mistake trading up. You could end up very far in debt and upside down, owing far more than the worth of the new vehicle.
It's never a good idea to roll a balance over into a new loan.
Hi when you do your trade in the dealer will take care of all that for you if he is any good . if he dont want to take your buisness elsewhere ok
The first thing you do is get smart about your finances. read all teh posts I have in here regarding people upside down on their cars. Adding negative equity to a new car loan is a step to financial disaster.
If you cannot be dissuaded from making this mistake, then geting them to sign off is not hard. Make the deal with the dealer. They will have to fed-ex the contracts to your parents for signatures. Then they send them back.
But again - look at the people I have answered for in the past. Rolling negative from one car to another only results in you getting further behind the fiancial curve. You will be even more upside down on the next car, for much longer. I have talked to people as much as $15,000 upside down as a result of doing this.
Buy smartHow do I go about getting my parents loan on my car transferred to a dealer when I trade it in?
Please take care - there are scammers on Y!A who actively seek out questions like yours and then offer loans but are scammers
Here are some tips for determining whether a loan is legitimate or a scam:
1) They don't use a free email address (yahoo, gmail, hotmail, etc)
2) They have a secure website you can go to to fill out their application (and no excuses about it being down at the moment)
3) They don't require ANY fees upfront (regardless of whatever excuse they use). Any fees will come out of proceeds of the loan (scammers want their fees via Western Union or Moneygram)
4) They have a REAL address (check it in the yellow pages) you can send mail to
5) They have a REAL phone number, not a cell phone
Often if you click on their profile you will find it is created in the last 24 hours - why? Because they are reported, profile closed down, but they simply create a new profile and start up again
Save yourself another headache and avoid them like the plague. The one from Lucky C (Rev. Peter White) above my post is a prime example of what I mean.... do not go anywhere near it.
Nothing. The dealer will take care of the details. Depending on how much you still owe on the trade, and its current fair market value, you *could* be making a giant mistake trading up. You could end up very far in debt and upside down, owing far more than the worth of the new vehicle.
It's never a good idea to roll a balance over into a new loan.
Hi when you do your trade in the dealer will take care of all that for you if he is any good . if he dont want to take your buisness elsewhere ok
How do you rate yourself as a parent?
How different are you from your parents? Are you a superior parent?How do you rate yourself as a parent?
I am a pretty good parent I think. Sometimes its hard though!!! With a15 %26amp; 11 yr.old I am always tackling something new. I have very good parent %26amp; I do call my mommy %26amp; ask for advice sometimes.How do you rate yourself as a parent?
I have been a parent for 5.6 years i have 3 children i was married when i had them i am now divorced i am far from superior. My parents have been married for 30 years. I think i am good mum i still make mistakes but my children are great all rounded children, so i must be doing a good job.
Sorry, I can't answer this one, I never had children of my own. I have a beautiful step-daughter, but she didn't come into our lives until she was 20 years old because of her Mother. However, my Daddy was an alcoholic and I don't drink. My Mother was a wonderful woman. I would never say that I am superior to my parents because we are all products of our parents.
Ok, the fist additional question I will respond to first, then answer the one about whether or not I was superior to my parents at parenting, and finally, the overall rating I would give myself as a parent.
First, I raised eight children. I didn't raise them all from birth, only the first three for that, and the rest were sort of adopted by me. I was actually legal guardian, but I am their mother the same as for my birth children. It makes no never mind to me the blood question.
So, I can review the past twenty six years of parenting to arrive at my responses.
I was very different than my parents in overall parenting techniques, but not in my morals, values and integrity. That foundation was taught by my parents and they did an outstanding job if I do say so myself. I have a very strong moral and ethical foundation, and as such a high belief in personal responsibility and work ethic.
So, while my parents failed in some ways, so too did I. Anyone who claims they did not fail their children in any way at all are either in denial, or simply lying. Every parent fails their children at least in some ways. It is when parents are well intentioned, did their level best to be the most effective parents possible that somebody is a ';good enough parent';.
I know for a fact that decisions I made over the course of my children's lives had adverse affects upon them. Thankfully, my children are loving and understanding young adults who appreciate all I have done for them over the years and so do not resent the times I messed up. lol
Now, one of the major reasons my children appreciate me and don't judge me too harshly, is because I didn't try to pretend to be some super hero parent who could do no wrong. When I was wrong I promptly admitted it and did what I could to make admends. Even children deserve respect and consideration, and they can handle a great deal more honesty than most believe. I never lied about Santa Claus, or the Tooth Fairy, or the Easter Bunny either. If you wish a open and honest child, you need to be an open and honest parent. Children grow to distrust and resent parents who lie to them and especially over something which can cause them great embarressment. Such as when they attend school with students who know Santa Claus is a myth, and yet, they still think he is real, and are told in very cruel terms of that truth. Children do not appreciate such school yard tortures, and do not trust parents who subject them to such abuse.
Now, my parents were much harsher with my siblings and I than I felt was needed for proper discipline of children. While I do not resent my parents or blame them, as they did as best they could too, I did want to try things differently with my children.
However, children have plenty of friends, if they are not moved around a great deal. They develope these friends over years of attending school and social events in the town/city where they live, and they do not need parents as friends, but as parents. They only have one or two parents and so parents need to be those parents. Too many parents these days attempt to be freinds to their children, which confuses the heck out of them and creates boundery issues.
My children knew they lived in a dictatorship, rather than a democracy. I was the ultimatly responsible individual and as such held the ultimate final decision on what occurred in our household. My children knew their voices would be heard, but that I couldn't please all of them all the time, nor would I if I could have.
I do think I did a better job at parenting than my parents. However, this does not mean I think I am superior to them. They lived in a different generation as did I. My children also live in a different generation, and in a different culture, and I expect them to do a better job parenting their children than I did with them.
Each generation is suppose to accomplish more in all areas than those which went before. This includes raising and parenting children. However, sometimes we get stuck on how our parents did things, and it seems more men do so than women, or so studies show. Perhaps it is due to how stubborn men tend to be, though women are fast approching men in stubborness in the United States. I am unsure how it is in other cultures but equality has both positive and negative empacts. lol
So, I do think I did a better job than my parents, in an overall viewpoint, but that they did the best they could for their generation. I know it could have been a great deal worse for my siblings and I, and I see today how horrible it can be for c hildren today. I would hope we each in our turn appreciate the good our parents did and forgive the not so good, as long as they are not drunken, or drugged out addicts, who abuse and neglect their children for the high.
No, I do not feel superior to my parents. I think each of my parents are good enough parents. Did they mess us kids up in some ways? Sure they did, they wouldn't have been human had they not, or would have been in the very small 5% of the worlds population which isn't dysfunctional to one degree or another.
I have been parenting for 18 years. I don't recommend it to young people, as it has been the hardest thing I've ever done.
That's how I know I'm a good parent- if it was easy, then I didn't do a good job.
My motto is to do the OPPOSITE of everything my parents did. It's worked wonderfully:)
Only been a parent for 1 year so still learning, not perfect at it but think I'm doing a good job. Follow some of the things my parent done and miss out the bits I didn't like!
I rate myself an 8. There is no perfect parent . All you can do is your best and LOVE your child.
as a single parent of 2 for the past 5 n half years, i can deal with anything that is thrown my way, whether it being puttin a kids bike 2gether, to teaching them how to swim n tie their shoes i can more then handle it.
i am the modern day wonder woman.
feel free to stand in my shadow!
mahahahaha!!!
I am a pretty good parent I think. Sometimes its hard though!!! With a15 %26amp; 11 yr.old I am always tackling something new. I have very good parent %26amp; I do call my mommy %26amp; ask for advice sometimes.How do you rate yourself as a parent?
I have been a parent for 5.6 years i have 3 children i was married when i had them i am now divorced i am far from superior. My parents have been married for 30 years. I think i am good mum i still make mistakes but my children are great all rounded children, so i must be doing a good job.
Sorry, I can't answer this one, I never had children of my own. I have a beautiful step-daughter, but she didn't come into our lives until she was 20 years old because of her Mother. However, my Daddy was an alcoholic and I don't drink. My Mother was a wonderful woman. I would never say that I am superior to my parents because we are all products of our parents.
Ok, the fist additional question I will respond to first, then answer the one about whether or not I was superior to my parents at parenting, and finally, the overall rating I would give myself as a parent.
First, I raised eight children. I didn't raise them all from birth, only the first three for that, and the rest were sort of adopted by me. I was actually legal guardian, but I am their mother the same as for my birth children. It makes no never mind to me the blood question.
So, I can review the past twenty six years of parenting to arrive at my responses.
I was very different than my parents in overall parenting techniques, but not in my morals, values and integrity. That foundation was taught by my parents and they did an outstanding job if I do say so myself. I have a very strong moral and ethical foundation, and as such a high belief in personal responsibility and work ethic.
So, while my parents failed in some ways, so too did I. Anyone who claims they did not fail their children in any way at all are either in denial, or simply lying. Every parent fails their children at least in some ways. It is when parents are well intentioned, did their level best to be the most effective parents possible that somebody is a ';good enough parent';.
I know for a fact that decisions I made over the course of my children's lives had adverse affects upon them. Thankfully, my children are loving and understanding young adults who appreciate all I have done for them over the years and so do not resent the times I messed up. lol
Now, one of the major reasons my children appreciate me and don't judge me too harshly, is because I didn't try to pretend to be some super hero parent who could do no wrong. When I was wrong I promptly admitted it and did what I could to make admends. Even children deserve respect and consideration, and they can handle a great deal more honesty than most believe. I never lied about Santa Claus, or the Tooth Fairy, or the Easter Bunny either. If you wish a open and honest child, you need to be an open and honest parent. Children grow to distrust and resent parents who lie to them and especially over something which can cause them great embarressment. Such as when they attend school with students who know Santa Claus is a myth, and yet, they still think he is real, and are told in very cruel terms of that truth. Children do not appreciate such school yard tortures, and do not trust parents who subject them to such abuse.
Now, my parents were much harsher with my siblings and I than I felt was needed for proper discipline of children. While I do not resent my parents or blame them, as they did as best they could too, I did want to try things differently with my children.
However, children have plenty of friends, if they are not moved around a great deal. They develope these friends over years of attending school and social events in the town/city where they live, and they do not need parents as friends, but as parents. They only have one or two parents and so parents need to be those parents. Too many parents these days attempt to be freinds to their children, which confuses the heck out of them and creates boundery issues.
My children knew they lived in a dictatorship, rather than a democracy. I was the ultimatly responsible individual and as such held the ultimate final decision on what occurred in our household. My children knew their voices would be heard, but that I couldn't please all of them all the time, nor would I if I could have.
I do think I did a better job at parenting than my parents. However, this does not mean I think I am superior to them. They lived in a different generation as did I. My children also live in a different generation, and in a different culture, and I expect them to do a better job parenting their children than I did with them.
Each generation is suppose to accomplish more in all areas than those which went before. This includes raising and parenting children. However, sometimes we get stuck on how our parents did things, and it seems more men do so than women, or so studies show. Perhaps it is due to how stubborn men tend to be, though women are fast approching men in stubborness in the United States. I am unsure how it is in other cultures but equality has both positive and negative empacts. lol
So, I do think I did a better job than my parents, in an overall viewpoint, but that they did the best they could for their generation. I know it could have been a great deal worse for my siblings and I, and I see today how horrible it can be for c hildren today. I would hope we each in our turn appreciate the good our parents did and forgive the not so good, as long as they are not drunken, or drugged out addicts, who abuse and neglect their children for the high.
No, I do not feel superior to my parents. I think each of my parents are good enough parents. Did they mess us kids up in some ways? Sure they did, they wouldn't have been human had they not, or would have been in the very small 5% of the worlds population which isn't dysfunctional to one degree or another.
I have been parenting for 18 years. I don't recommend it to young people, as it has been the hardest thing I've ever done.
That's how I know I'm a good parent- if it was easy, then I didn't do a good job.
My motto is to do the OPPOSITE of everything my parents did. It's worked wonderfully:)
Only been a parent for 1 year so still learning, not perfect at it but think I'm doing a good job. Follow some of the things my parent done and miss out the bits I didn't like!
I rate myself an 8. There is no perfect parent . All you can do is your best and LOVE your child.
as a single parent of 2 for the past 5 n half years, i can deal with anything that is thrown my way, whether it being puttin a kids bike 2gether, to teaching them how to swim n tie their shoes i can more then handle it.
i am the modern day wonder woman.
feel free to stand in my shadow!
mahahahaha!!!
How can I delete directories inside a parent directory from DOS command line?
I want to delete all the directories under a parent directory without deleting the parent through DOS command line. That case i don't know how many directories exist under parent.How can I delete directories inside a parent directory from DOS command line?
In one line - I do not think that you can...
Command RD (RMDIR) /s allows you to remove directory and subdirs and files in it, BUT it removes the dir itself too...
If you want to remove EVERYTHING in dir (incl. subdirs AND files) then the two commands option is:
RD /s/q myDir
MD myDir
If this is NOT suitable, then you will have to loop through directory content and RD /s each of the subdirs...jabbawockeez mask
In one line - I do not think that you can...
Command RD (RMDIR) /s allows you to remove directory and subdirs and files in it, BUT it removes the dir itself too...
If you want to remove EVERYTHING in dir (incl. subdirs AND files) then the two commands option is:
RD /s/q myDir
MD myDir
If this is NOT suitable, then you will have to loop through directory content and RD /s each of the subdirs...
How do you teach children to respect parents?
When his/her mother and father didn't respect themselves enough to be married before they had a child? What can those parents teach a child about commitment?How do you teach children to respect parents?
respect them.How do you teach children to respect parents?
Why do you think you are the only one entitled to an opinion.You also assume that those who oppose you have been somehow exposed. I have been married 32 years to the same man and think you should read 1 Corinthians 13:1-13
Respect is not given it is earned.Should children disrespect their parents if they divorce or do you permit the children to still love their parents.
My Husband and I had our two children before we were married. We were married when our children were 3 %26amp; 4. It was great to have them as part of the ceremony. That is a lesson in commitment. At least we can say we got married for love, and not the children alone. And at least we can say we have gone through our hard times and still wanted to be a family instead of rushing in and getting divorced a few years later. Respect is in everything you do and say. Children learn by example. How do you teach children respect is a vague question. If I had to give an answer, I'd have to say - Love, Patience, and Effort.
Of course. I recently was divorced by my wife because she met someone else, she let me take the kids and its working out wonderful. Both of my daughters are very respectful, not because I demand it or threaten them if they are not respectful but because I am respectful of others and I stand tall and proud. They don't know of their heritage but they will one day and I expect they will know more of honor, tradition and respect then most children do. Children act as they are taught by example, the best way for them to learn is by seeing their parents and family.
Get a Dr.Phil book or better yet go to his show
That is so old fashioned.....
What matters is how your family unit interacts, if you are a ';team';, if you respect one another %26amp; how you interact in front of the child.
bust their *** when they do wrong.
I had a child before I got married. However I am now married (not to his father tho) with 2 more children. I have found that it is better for the child to see what is going on NOW instead of what happened in the past. Dwelling on past events does not help. I am showing my kids that even though I have made mistakes in my life, I can still have a loving committed relationship in marriage. How my husband and I work together now teaches our sons about committment. Even though my husband is not my eldest son's biological father he is my son's Dad and that shows more committment than any marriage and teaches him that blood relation is not required for love.
force them to watch Little House on the Prairie on DVD.
Hit them daily. Respect, fear...they're the same thing.
Children need to learn that they aren't real people yet and that their opinions do not matter. It sickens me how there are hardly any ';parents'; anymore. Every parent wants to be their child's best friend nowadays. It disguists me.
there is too much apathy in the world right now, parents have to be more strict than they are being nowadays from day 1. Well, maybe not day one, but like, year 1-1.5.
Show them your perfect example then they would follow.
nothing the world is doomed have a nice day
show each other respect and keep it going,it rubs off
respect them.How do you teach children to respect parents?
Why do you think you are the only one entitled to an opinion.You also assume that those who oppose you have been somehow exposed. I have been married 32 years to the same man and think you should read 1 Corinthians 13:1-13
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Respect is not given it is earned.Should children disrespect their parents if they divorce or do you permit the children to still love their parents.
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My Husband and I had our two children before we were married. We were married when our children were 3 %26amp; 4. It was great to have them as part of the ceremony. That is a lesson in commitment. At least we can say we got married for love, and not the children alone. And at least we can say we have gone through our hard times and still wanted to be a family instead of rushing in and getting divorced a few years later. Respect is in everything you do and say. Children learn by example. How do you teach children respect is a vague question. If I had to give an answer, I'd have to say - Love, Patience, and Effort.
Of course. I recently was divorced by my wife because she met someone else, she let me take the kids and its working out wonderful. Both of my daughters are very respectful, not because I demand it or threaten them if they are not respectful but because I am respectful of others and I stand tall and proud. They don't know of their heritage but they will one day and I expect they will know more of honor, tradition and respect then most children do. Children act as they are taught by example, the best way for them to learn is by seeing their parents and family.
Get a Dr.Phil book or better yet go to his show
That is so old fashioned.....
What matters is how your family unit interacts, if you are a ';team';, if you respect one another %26amp; how you interact in front of the child.
bust their *** when they do wrong.
I had a child before I got married. However I am now married (not to his father tho) with 2 more children. I have found that it is better for the child to see what is going on NOW instead of what happened in the past. Dwelling on past events does not help. I am showing my kids that even though I have made mistakes in my life, I can still have a loving committed relationship in marriage. How my husband and I work together now teaches our sons about committment. Even though my husband is not my eldest son's biological father he is my son's Dad and that shows more committment than any marriage and teaches him that blood relation is not required for love.
force them to watch Little House on the Prairie on DVD.
Hit them daily. Respect, fear...they're the same thing.
Children need to learn that they aren't real people yet and that their opinions do not matter. It sickens me how there are hardly any ';parents'; anymore. Every parent wants to be their child's best friend nowadays. It disguists me.
there is too much apathy in the world right now, parents have to be more strict than they are being nowadays from day 1. Well, maybe not day one, but like, year 1-1.5.
Show them your perfect example then they would follow.
nothing the world is doomed have a nice day
show each other respect and keep it going,it rubs off
Who do you let know when a parent refuses to fallow visitation schedules?
my husbands ex is refusing to meet half way to get his daughter to us. its in the court paper, we are supposed to have her for labor day also and she said no. how do we go about solving this? who do we turn her into? we live in nebraska.Who do you let know when a parent refuses to fallow visitation schedules?
Is different ways to do it, one is to go to a social worker who will help you to the whole process, or go to the same court that order the visitation schedules and expose your situation, the fact that she is refusing to meet half way is the same refusing to let him see his child. Not good! court order is to be respected and a judge will not tolerate this, tell you husband to communicate calmly with his ex to try to resolve this matter in the best friendly way for the best of the child, explaining you don't want to do this, that all you want is what the court ordered, if she refuses than go for it, no reason to feel guiltyWho do you let know when a parent refuses to fallow visitation schedules?
The only way is back to court. She can be found in contempt. The problem is she knows full well the courts take a very long time and often rule on the contempt and do nothing to enforce it. By the time you get into court for Labor Day visitation it will be Halloween. Etc. , Etc. , Etc.......
Is different ways to do it, one is to go to a social worker who will help you to the whole process, or go to the same court that order the visitation schedules and expose your situation, the fact that she is refusing to meet half way is the same refusing to let him see his child. Not good! court order is to be respected and a judge will not tolerate this, tell you husband to communicate calmly with his ex to try to resolve this matter in the best friendly way for the best of the child, explaining you don't want to do this, that all you want is what the court ordered, if she refuses than go for it, no reason to feel guiltyWho do you let know when a parent refuses to fallow visitation schedules?
The only way is back to court. She can be found in contempt. The problem is she knows full well the courts take a very long time and often rule on the contempt and do nothing to enforce it. By the time you get into court for Labor Day visitation it will be Halloween. Etc. , Etc. , Etc.......
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