Why do so many parents feel the need to judge other parents?

I see it all the time here. Parents judging others for breastfeeding, or not breastfeeding, circumcising or not circumcising, homeschooling or public schooling, this discipline or that discipline, the list goes on and on.


Don't most parents make these choices with the best interest of the child at heart? So, isn't that what is more important? Why come off so judgmental toward other who have a different view point, when you could kindly suggest your ideas, and then leave it at that?Why do so many parents feel the need to judge other parents?
Because some people will always think they are the perfect parents and that everyone else should bow down to their authority.





Don't pay attention to the judgemental people.Why do so many parents feel the need to judge other parents?
People on Y!A will judge everyone for everything. Because they think that they are perfect. I've been told that I wasn't a true Christian (in an email) because I wrote on here that I respected our president. Not that I supported or agreed with him, just that I respect him. Same goes with the parenting. I don't ask many parenting questions, so I haven't gotten harassed that way. However I do see it happening quite abundantly.





Parents, as a whole, are not perfect and make mistakes all the time. It's a given. It's part of the job. But we should not condemn or judge someone for not doing the exact same thing we do.
I agree :). I have a friends that i dont agree with the way they do things, but i have to remember ever child is different and what works for my son may not work for her son. What i find funny is that the people that judge usally are for abortion and say its the mother choice, her body her choice, but yet when it comes to breastfeeding ...if you dont your slefish and horrible. Does that really make any sence...you can kill a baby, and not be selfish, but if you dont breast feed a baby you are...? thats what gets me.
I try not to judge--I really do. I know I hate it when people say ugly things about ';extended'; breastfeeding, cosleeping, etc. Several people I know haven't held back at all telling me what they think of how I parent--mostly my mother-in-law, ironically. And there are times when I may be thinking that a parent should do something differently, but I usually bite my tongue and let them handle it their own way. Unless they ask for my opinion, of course, and then I may never shut up :-)





I think many times women don't realize they are coming off as judgmental. They are just trying to help another woman find the ';right'; way to parent. I'm sure some people think I am judgmental, but I am trying to focus more and more on being helpful in a non-abrasive, non-political way.
perhaps you've noticed that people can be judgmental about virtually anything, from people's clothing to their looks to their pasttimes or race or religion or what have you. people who are judgmental by nature don't make an exception when it comes to being judgmental about parenting. even some people who aren't judgmental about other things suffer from the delusion that kids are little clones of one another so that what works (or doesn't work) for their particular child must work (or not) for all children everywhere.





if you really believe a certain way of parenting is best or worth a try, coming off as judgmental is a really bad way of persuading someone else to try it.....
I honestly try my hardest not to judge anybody, because I truly hate the fact that people judge on me as to what I feed my child, our schedule, names etc. Its some thing so stupid, and I try to steer clear from it. If its like a troll or something then I sit their and give a ignorant remark to them. The ones that state a million different things through out their entire question and etc. But I do agree that its whats best for a child, and some parents might think that something is much better then another mother. Like for me I think breastfeeding is best for my children- that's my child not theirs. But everybody I know gave their children formula but I'm not one to judge on that- I know why they didn't want to breastfeed and they judge me for breastfeeding (when I did). But it does rather tick me off, because people get mad when you do it, then they do it.
You don't have to be a parent to judge someone else. I live in a town of less than five hundred people. I know which parent hits their kid. I know which parents take their kids to the bar. I know which parent leaves their kids at home while they go to the bar. I know which parent lives with two different men. I know which parent has a living room full of porno movies while their daughter walks the street until three in the morning.


And they judge me because I have been married five years and have no kids. I mean...a woman that doesn't want kids !?! They don't understand that I want to provide a decent stable home life, not my current life of letting the bipolar disorder dictate life.
Watching and dealing with many different types of people over the years I have found people are very judgemental and often cruel about shortcomings in OTHER people that they fear within THEMSELVES. Much of the time they are unsure and insecure about their own life choices so they point fingers and judge others.
Hmmm, I'd like to know that too. I was told on here that I don't love my children nor do I deserve to have children because I smoke [cigarettes].





I've also been called a *part-time mom* because I work when in reality I am an *overtime mom* because I work at work %26amp; then I work at home.





The judgements will never end.
Because it is unfortunately a side of human nature. If you are doing something you are not happy with or proud of you have two choices, change your behavior OR put down/judge others.
It is really no different than the bully at school picking on the kids who are different.........





It is a self consciousness within themselves, putting other parents down and judging them helps to make them feel better.
Probably because they are shitty parents so they making themselves feel better by judging other parents and pointing out their flaws.
people are judgmental about anything and everything...its their insecurities coming out...i don't pay them any mind...
People are ignorant.
I only judge wu. Not you or other, just wu.
If you wanna hear it or not: They're often right about it! So I agree with them very often!
Here is a great website that recently started if you wanted to ask any of these people questions.





http://newtomommyhood.moogo.com
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