How would you address a foster parent who didnt love you?

If you were adopted and your foster parents didnt love you and ignored you would you address them by their first names(Rupert), Last names (Mr.Loongfellow) or by title aka ';Dad';? Let's say they had no preference. What is most probable for a you as a kid to address them by?How would you address a foster parent who didnt love you?
Well, if this is the case, I would use this guideline:


1) To address someone by the title of Mr. or Mrs. is a form of respect. If they mistreated you as a child, then they have not EARNED this respect, therefore, they don't deserve to be addressed as such.


2) To use the title of Dad is clearly contradictory to the way you feel toward this person, therefore it would be hypocritical to use this title.


3) The only option you have left is to address them by their first names....and if they don't like that.....tell them you don't HAVE to address them at all. You can simply ignore them they way they ignored YOU growing up!How would you address a foster parent who didnt love you?
Even if they don't love you they may find it annoying to be called Mr. or Mrs. the whole time. Maybe a little patronising.





If they have earned your respect use the Mr. name for a while. If you are still unsure then say something like ';I know this seems a stupid question but I'm not really sure what you want me to call you.';





If they say ';I don't mind.'; that's an invitation to either Rupert or dad. They want you to be more comfortable, so either would be more friendly. Since you say they don't love you I'd suggest Rupert for a while. They'd understand.
Ask them.





Btw, for the other answerers, please get it out of your head that all parents love their children. Lots of parents do, lots of parents don't. Given the choice between foster parents who don't love me and my parents, I'm just as keen on the foster parents. The asker's mileage may vary.





Bob
This thing is impossible that parents did not love you. Parents always love their children. It could be there are faults inside you which you cant see yet. Parents are always well wisher of their children. I dont agree with your statement that your parents did not love you. You are wrong here. You should give full respect to them
Probably by their first names, and ask to be moved from the house, into a better more loving environment that might serve you better.
What makes you feel like they do not love you? Ask them how they would like to be addressed.
with a long handled spoon.... just hello and goodbye. get to the point and don't let them push your buttons.