Sunday, May 9, 2010

How do I tell my devoutly Catholic parents that I am now an atheist?

I recently realized that the Catholic religion that I used to follow and my entire family follows isn't the right religion for me. Please help me break my news to my super conservative parents!!How do I tell my devoutly Catholic parents that I am now an atheist?
I think you should very gently and kindly tell them that you have been struggling with your faith and have come to question whether or not there is a God.





They'll be upset and of course they will pray for you (which shouldn't bother you, as you are an atheist and believe their prayers will amount to nothing). They may wish to help you find your faith again, and you should consider it. An intelligent person will engage on a fact-finding mission to determine what is true, rather than just operate on personal opinion. How much time have you really spent looking for facts, rather than just coddling your own personal feelings about the inconvenience of faith?How do I tell my devoutly Catholic parents that I am now an atheist?
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Assuming you're still living with them, you shouldn't tell them.








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If you proclaim 'atheism' then no religion is 'right for you'.








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The fact they're religious doesn't make them ';super conservative';.








Are you sure youv'e thought things through, at all?
With a matter of faith, it has to be a personal choice. Religion followed because it is your parents', and not yours, is a religion not followed. It is better to be honest rather than go through the motions.





Tell them your reasons. Expect them to be disappointed, to be angry, to argue, to plead. But it is your choice. The calmer you are, the easier it will be.
the wiset thing to do is not tell them, cause i was there when my friend told her religious parents she was an atheist, and they practically killed her. it was crazy. they called her an evil demon, and threatened to kick her out of the house unless she didnt go to church right now and confess. it was like they pretended i wasnt there. she thought they wouldnt take this so hard if a friend was present, but they went all out. unless you want your parents to send you to a mental hospital, let them either find out by themselves, or just shut up. i really wish you good luck, since im an atheist and i havent told my catholic family yet.
Decisions on religion are critically important and should not be chosen lightly. I have a few questions that might be helpful:





1. Why do you feel Catholicism isn't right for you?





2. What specific beliefs do you agree or not agree with?





3. Do you have questions about the Faith that need to be answered, or aspects of it that you do not understand?





God bless.
There's no way that the Catholic faith is ';not for you';. Though you may have tons of questions and doubts and disagree on numberable things, it's not for you to choose. Jesus built the Catholic Church and it is intended for everyone. Catholic means ';universal';. Jesus Christ never wanted people to seperate themselves for any reason, He prayed that we would stay ';one'; as the Father and Him ';are one';.


It's hard, and God knows the path you need to take to deal with these issue, my brother went through this same exact thing a few years ago. He just recently came back to the Catholic faith and started looking up answers for all these unresolved questions that he's had and he now doesn't understand why he ever left. Because now things are clearer for him after some studying on his own.


Things will get better, don't give up your faith. You might just be rebeling against your parents since they are extremely conservative...that'll make anyone rebel against!!! But don't let other people, not even your parents, take away your faith. It's only yours and God's alone, no one else's.





God bless you and take care+
Just watch this video. I lol every time.





And telling your parents you're an atheist is a dangerous thing. I am currently living ';in the closet'; where they are concerned. I am still dependent on them for money; they're putting me through school. I just fake as little as I have to to get by.
Tell them that you're a lesbian, and you've just shacked up with a stripper you met at a club.





When they've calmed down, tell them you were just kidding, and you've simply decided that you require evidence before you believe in something, so that whole God thing is out.
Athiesm wont last for as long as you think.





Last month, I saw a nobel prize winner in Physics give a talk here in DC. He won the nobel prize (1997/98) in Physics for studies of motion at absolute zero.





Anyway, he explained that most of the smartest scientest DO believe in God, and that the online movies/media were not representative of the scientific community.





I was blown away.





Finally he said, that science didnt harm his faith- it confirmed it.





He said most scientests ARE believers.





Pretty cool- so dont get fooled by the 234 errors in Zeitgeist.





I agree with ';dbzgalaxy';, miracles arent coinsidences, including this one: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Eucharistic鈥?/a>
There's really only one way to do it, just say it.


';why aren't you going to church?';


';because I don't believe in that sort of thing.';


Be prepared for the debate, yelling, disownment, and prayers.


You could just keep it to yourself, don't go to church or waste your time with prayer. Let them have their beliefs, you can have your lack thereof.
Be true to yourself..have a close forum with them and gradually tell them that you're an atheist. It is your own life..Parents Signifies only as being a guide to the children s/children, soon you'll be the one to make up your own decisions in life.








One thing for sure...





RESPECT.
First off ... you state first that you're an atheist. THEN you state that Catholicism isn't the right religion for you. Which is it? I mean, lots of Jews become Christians. Some Christians become Jews. Lots of Catholics become Protestants. Etc. Are you sure that just because you've rejected Catholicism that you're an atheist? I mean, I strongly disagree with a lot of the teachings of Catholicism. STRONGLY! So, maybe coming to understand God/Jesus through the eyes of someone like Martin Luther, who took his own mighty stand against Catholicism in the 16th century will help you. I would encourage you to seek out a REFORMED Protestant church. Reformed means that it adheres to the teachings of Martin Luther, who was trying to reform the Catholic church. Protestant means that it's in protest to Catholicism. Once you find that church, talk to the pastor about your disenchantment with Catholicism. He'll agree with you! He'll talk to you! He'll explain things in a way that you've never heard it explained before!





Aside from that, allow me to assure you that there is no doubt in my mind--zero, zip, nada, zilch!--that God exists. If you think otherwise, then you're wrong! I have no idea why you think that. Can the Catholic church be so evil that you could be thrown that far off the truth? I don't know! But don't mistake rebellion against your parents, rebellion against the church, with a fundamental denial of truth. That would be like denying the sky is blue, just because you don't want to agree with your parents. Make sense?





Now, if you are convinced there is no God, you must surely be equally convinced that this will hurt your parents deeply. Why would you want to tell them that? Start distancing yourself from their faith as best you can. Begin to miss Mass. Start refusing to talk about religion, saying things like, ';I'm uncomfortable talking about it.'; Just avoid the subject! If you need to move to another city to further distance yourself, do so! Just don't flaunt your atheism to them. The Bible tells you to respect your parents. EVEN if you know deny the authoritarian existance of God, it's still good advice. These two people love you more than any other people on earth. So you disagree with them. It's okay! We're all different! But to go out of your way to slap them in the face with your anti-religious beliefs would be mean-spirited.





Lord bless.
Tough question. Depends how old you are, and what you think their reaction might be. You know them best. If you were going to church and taking communion and all that stuff it might come as a bit of a shock. If they already know you're not too devoted, it might be easier for them.
go to your parents and say 'I have something I have to tell you that is very important...mum, dad I have a brain tumor and I'm dying (let the shock hit them for a moment) then say ';hey no I'm kidding I'm just an atheist that's all!';
An atheist is one who does not believe in any deity, not necessarily someone who has left the Roman Catholic Church.





You'll have to play this one by ear. Don't just glom it on to your parents. Do they really have to know?
you don't. if they are ';super conservative'; they will think you are a demon and get you exorcised or something. i would definitely wait until you're 18 then move out.
Don't


It may start a Family Inquisition/Crusade/Battle.


Just let it be.
It doesn't matter, the outcome and their reaction will be the same. I'm just glad that I won't be there when that can of worms gets oppened. Oh yeah, as Elmer Fudd might say - be veeewy veeewy kehful.
If telling them is not going to bring about anything positive then I suggest you don't.
Okay. Bring your parents over to the computer and have them read this:





Hey, your daughter's an atheist.
A long-distance phone call should do it.
so you dont like Catholicism, or you dont believe in God. It cant be that hard to tell your parents.
If they don't need to know, then don't tell them.
it must be obvious to them.
I hope you receive Christ
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